In Nigeria, most adults work between 8-9 hours a day, this means you spend most of your time with your colleagues and it may determine your entire emotional and mental state. Doing a task with a cheerful person makes the hardest job bearable but a mean person takes all the joy away. So it is important to know how to control your temper and not kill your annoying colleague at work. This article will give you tips on how you can achieve this.
Different departments make up a company and in those departments, there are several individuals with diverse personality traits. There will be those who enjoy chatting with colleagues and those who would rather be behind the computer screen working.
These differences gives a company a solid foundation. In a company, there will be individuals that handle:
- Customers’ well being (Customer Service)
- Data collation and analysis (Data Analyst)
- The finances of the company (Finance Team)
- Workers’ welfare (Human Resources)
- The delegation of tasks (Operational Managers)
- Drawing up the blue print that the company runs on (Chief Executive Officer), etc.
The disparity in personalities always leads to disagreements or conflict of interest that creates misunderstanding.
There are people who are not the nicest to be around but are efficient at their job. When you get that dream job that helps you to afford all the nice things you want, will you let it go just because you have an annoying colleague?
These four steps will help guide you on how to respond if a colleague is getting on your nerves.
1. Always Remain Positive:
The level of positivity you emit will directly affect your environment. Everyone wants to work with a person that makes their job easier, remaining positive no matter the situations gets 50% of the job done.
Remember when you were in school and needed someone to do your assignment or you want to copy answers from someone during exams, you would treat the person well so that you would get what you want at the end of the day. The same thing applies to your workplace.
2. Communicate Respectfully:
Treating people as you would like them to treat you, makes you explain less. Expecting people’s co-operation when you are the least co-operative person is basically contradicting yourself. Instead of giving instructions, lead by example, show empathy and you will have people help you all the time than fight against you.
Thinking of the future effect of a statement will restrain you from just speaking carelessly. The consequences of a particular word or action may shock you. Convey messages in the most professional way. It is hard work to be on people’s good sides, but when you can master that act, you will be the happiest person in your office.
3. Don’t Be Emotional, Be Professional:
Any argument that you start with emotions will definitely lead to failure. A friend once told me, “When you want to argue, get your facts right or people will only hear crickets”. Some people try emotional blackmail by making the whole situation about them. They pretend to be angry, sad or even cry. The funny thing is that they succeed most of the times.
Instead of resenting that person, leave them to cool off and come back when they are calm and explain your point. If this doesn’t work, get a mutual friend that you both respect to settle the conflict.
4. Know Your Limit:
Little things can turn people off. Try to find out the things that your colleagues do not like and avoid doing those things, so that they will treat you the same. There are people that do not like people using their mugs, dropping things on their table, scattering their documents and so on.
These are some tips on how to control your temper and not kill your annoying colleague at work.
Nevertheless, conflict is sometimes good. There is one major advantage to it. Disagreements will help you see things from different perspectives. It helps you become open minded. For managers and superiors, it is two-sided:
- A conflict allows you to identify problems you need to solve.
- If not solved on time, it can be damaging to the company.
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